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Saturday, November 6, 2010

Expectation: How much of it is real?

It really amazes me sometimes; I take the same path everyday to office, same number of footsteps, same traffic lights, same shops I cross-by but everyday its new thought that keeps me occupied when I take this short walk to office. This morning when I was crossing the road on my way to office, I saw a mirage on the surface of a bumpy road curvature; far ahead of my distance and that was it ….. this is what the article was waiting for to be written on I guess. ‘Expectation

I feel expectation is like an argument, it has two sides. One is your side and the other side is reality. As human beings its natural tendency with the emotions we are wired for to expect and to be expected. Just like to love and to be loved. But the difference maker here is, ‘vision’ (Inner sense with what you see).

The argument from human being’s end is, expectation is like a mirage, you know from far it’s real, shimmering, all beautiful as it has light (hope/dreams) but when you get closer and closer to the road one gets to know that there was nothing existed before and ever was – which is reality. We have this tendency to expect things certain way, expect people to react in certain way, expect things to work in certain way it is all ‘I WANT IT THAT WAY’ (yeah remembered right song – backstreet boys – I want it that way – it’s so apt for this article :D lucky irony)

Hallucination of expectation takes over us so much that we forget the fact that we WERE NOT supposed to expect anything in REALITY. As what u want is what you expect but what you NEED is most of the times called ‘REALITY’, which is simple but disguised so beautifully (Like a mermaid) that we seldom make effort to see what is simple. Vanishes quickly and becomes a haze.

Buddha says, ‘Desire is the root cause of all miseries’. I would wish to add this piece of line to it, ‘Expectation is the 2nd most root cause to almost all miseries’. We advocate the argument if not all the times but most of the times on our side so stereotypically by expecting things/actions of people around us in such and such certain patterns; that we blind ourselves to see what is in reality. We institutionalize ourselves. That is where the relationships come in. Give and take. How much to give and how to take.  Sometimes how much NOT to give and how much NOT to take (whether it is happiness, pain, care, open heart to know someone et al, all their relatives: D)

I call the rhythm of this argument, ‘you me’ song of dance. Every time you sing (scream) ‘YOU’ – you are expecting something you WANT. And resonating to this verse, universe/reality/world/practicality (phew so many faces of truth) sings back saying ‘ME’ – What is really NEEDED to make a move called ‘Life’.

To make peace within oneself, one has to take this risk, make a change to shift the prospect of expectations.  we are bound to take the high road and know the legitimacy of our true self, of our core nature of simple being. I wouldn’t say, don’t expect, expect but from SELF from veracity that is you that is all of us so that we will get it for sure !!!!


~Shilpa